Single in the City

Written by Leah LeMoine Category: Lifestyle Issue: August 2015
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Finding the love of your life ain’t what it used to be. In the era of online dating, hookup apps and multiple marriages, Valley singles have opened up to new ways of looking for The One – like, say, a magazine feature. Here, we present the top 10 most eligible bachelors and bachelorettes on the market. Interested? We’ll see what we can do.

Debbie Bagley
Bio:
“I need to live my life now and not wait,” Debbie Bagley, 39, realized after a couple of family deaths and her recent divorce. “I’m trying to enjoy things more now.” When she’s not working as a corporate controller for an IT consulting company, she likes to camp and kayak with her two children, ages 9 and 11, cook and read selections from the book club she’s in with friends.

Looking for:
“Someone who doesn’t take things too seriously and can be flexible. Someone who’s also motivated to enjoy life and do things. Someone who finds their own happiness.”

Deal-breakers:
“I think probably someone who doesn’t have their own interests and someone who doesn’t have their own group of friends that they go do things with... I don’t want to be in charge of your entertainment.”

Endorsement:
“One of the things I love most about Debbie is her ability to really connect with people and get to know them. She dives deep into conversations... and then follows up later and somehow remembers all the details you told her,” says Bagley’s friend Christine Baumann. “She has a genuine interest in really knowing everyone she meets. She is also open and honest about herself in the same way.”

 

 

PHM0915SING02Lewis Elliot
Bio:
As a professional triathlete, Lewis Elliot, 35, is obviously sporty: He’s been racing since he was a teenager in Montana, was on the U.S. national cycling team with Lance Armstrong and now trains 30-40 hours a week. A healthy cerebral side provides balance – Elliot enjoys travel, reading, music (he plays guitar), interior design and technology. He’s looking for a partner for travel, adventure and downtime.

Looking for:
“I’m most attracted to intelligence. When I have a connection with people, it’s usually somebody who I’ve learned from consistently, somebody who challenges me that way,” Elliot says. “People who have passion for anything are so much more attractive. And that’s just from experience, not because it sounds good.”

Deal-breakers:
“Honestly, whenever I put an absolute on anything, it’s almost like karmically I get challenged by that right away and it goes right out the window. I don’t think I’ve ever even used that term.”  

Endorsement:
“There’s not a negative bone in his body. He’s level-headed, a super nice guy. I think that’s hard to find in a lot of guys,” says Elliot’s friend and fellow pro triathlete Nick Carter. “The humbleness comes from being from Montana. He doesn’t want to go in there with an ego.”

 

 

PHM 800x800 FPOEnder Inciarte
Bio:
Arizona Diamondbacks outfielder Ender Inciarte likes to have a good time on and off the field, from messing around with his teammates to enjoying a belly-laugh at his favorite Jim Carrey movies. “I’m a really relaxed guy,” Inciarte, 24, says. “I enjoy making people laugh and I like to laugh a lot, too.” The Venezuela native is coy about his ideal date. “That’ll be my secret. If I say it, it won’t be a surprise.”

Looking for:
Baseball fanaticism isn’t essential, but “if she likes sports, that might be a plus.” The future Señora Inciarte must love travel and family. “I’m really close to my family. Every time the season’s over I go back to Venezuela,” Inciarte says. “In 10 years I’m hoping I have at least two kids.”

Deal-breakers:
“I don’t like smokers. No drunk people.”

Endorsement:
“Ender is a great guy and a good friend. He just needs to find the right person and someone that would be very supportive of him,” says Inciarte’s friend and teammate, left fielder David Peralta. “He likes to socialize and is easy to get along with, but at the same time likes his privacy and does his own thing at times.”

 

 

PHM 800x800 FPOGayle Bass
Bio:
Gayle Bass, 46, hails from San Diego but has been a Valley media mainstay for more than 15 years, first on KTAR and now on the viral videos show RightThisMinute. She loves reading, traveling, hiking and running. As for her ideologial leanings, she says with a laugh, “I went to Berkeley and I’m pretty religious, so if somebody could tell me what I am...”

Looking for:
“Since I’ve lowered my standards a little bit, jail time is OK if it’s for a worthy cause like Save the Dolphins. Let me put it this way: My Jewish mom [friend’s mom] wants me to do JDate, my black mom wants me to marry a Bush and my dad wants me to marry a Kennedy. [laughs] I’ll date anything as long as he’s nice. You have to be nice and you have to be decent and gracious.”

Deal-breakers:
“Ex-wives are fine; crazy ex-wives, not so much.”

Endorsement:
“Gayle has that rare combination of beauty, brains, sass, humor and heart,” says Bass’ friend and RightThisMinute co-host Beth Troutman. “Gayle would be the perfect match for anyone who loves an independent woman who can make you laugh, make you think and make you want to be a better person... You gotta love a woman who loves Star Trek, Lord of the Rings and Voltaire.”

 

 

PHM 800x800 FPOSpencer Schantz
Bio:
For someone so young, firefighter and paramedic Spencer Schantz, 25, has some decidedly old-school qualities. He doesn’t own a TV, eschews social media and often forgets to turn his phone on. Schantz would rather spend time in the water, fishing and doing water sports, or rebuilding the 28-foot pontoon boat he’s customizing with a slide. He’s close with his family and still attends church with them every Sunday.

Looking for:
“Someone who’s laid-back, likes to travel, low-stress. Someone who likes to have a good time and isn’t too worried about what they look like all the time... Like a travel buddy who can pick up and go and experience new things. And then eventually a family.”  

Deal-breakers:
“Doesn’t like the water. You gotta be good with going out to the lake and the ocean.”

Endorsement:
“He’s fun, outgoing, humble, easygoing. Always smiling, always laughing,” says Anthony Mock, Schantz’s friend and partner at Phoenix Fire Department Station 26. “He’s very selfless. He’ll drop what he’s doing that day to come help somebody out who needs something. I needed my loft painted at my house and he showed up at my door at 8 a.m. with paint and everything ready to go.

 

 

PHM 800x800 FPOKirti Dwivedi
Bio:
A first-generation American, Kirti Dwivedi, 38, was born in Philadelphia to Indian immigrant parents and lived in Ohio before relocating to Arizona. She started her professional life as a counselor and social worker before starting her own marketing firm, Diya Marketing, and a craft cocktail blog, Boozin’ with the Brown Girl. Most impressively, she harnessed the power of social media to find a life-saving kidney donor for her mother in 2011. Dwivedi and her mother cook together every Sunday.

Looking for:
“Somebody who has ambition and is competent. Career-driven, well-traveled... My parents have been married for 51 years. To my father, [my mother] walks on water. He loves her with every cell of his being. The way that man looks at her is the way I want somebody to look at me.”

Deal-breakers:
“I can’t be with somebody who’s jealous and insecure. Somebody who takes themselves seriously all the time... Bad teeth.”

Endorsement:
“She might come off as a tough chick, but those who really know her see a side that will be there to help in a moment’s notice and go to the mat for those she loves,” says Dwivedi’s friend and fellow foodie blogger Joanie Simon. “Some of my favorite times with Kirti are low-key nights spent in, enjoying good conversations.”

 

 

PHM0915SING07aJulie Dodge
Bio:
By day, Julie Dodge, 44, is a payment processor. By night, she’s a self-described “rock ‘n’ roll cheerleader” and voracious consumer of live music and local art. She was divorced five years ago and used her signature joie de vivre to get through it. “The more you have fun, the sooner you’ll bounce back,” she says. When she’s not listening to Scorpion vs. Tarantula or Man Hands, she likes hiking and going on group bike rides in Downtown Phoenix.

Looking for:
“I really want someone who wants to have fun – who knows the responsibility of working, but also understands you work to have fun and live life. I just want somebody to do crazy fun stuff with so we have great stories when we’re old.”

Deal-breakers:
“I really don’t know if I have any deal-breakers. I’m really pretty easygoing. Once you’ve gotten to the point that you’ve turned me off or made me mad, it had to have taken a lot.”

Endorsement:
“Julie is the most generous person I know. Having a bad day? Call Julie. In trouble? Call Julie,” says Dodge’s friend Tana A. Youmans. “She’ll tell you about every cool bar, hip band and restaurant in town. Julie would bring to a relationship loyalty, spontaneity and unconditional acceptance. She’s the patron saint of coolness.”

 

 

PHM 800x800 FPOJames Johnson
Bio:
Though he puts on a gruff and sarcastic front, classic car salesman James Johnson, 76, has a tender side: He regularly treats the guys in his shop to homemade sandwiches. After decades in the car business, Johnson says his interests are “cars only” and he’s never missed a Barrett-Jackson collector car auction. He also enjoys classic films, a night out at El Chorro and weekends playing roulette at Talking Stick Casino. Born in Detroit and raised in Wisconsin, he has four adult sons, four grandkids and an unspecified number of ex-wives. “Don’t put that crap in there,” he says.

Looking for:
A companion to have fun and live life with – but no more marriage. “I’m too old to train another one,” he says with a laugh. She doesn’t have to like cars, “but it helps.”

Deal-breakers:
“No smokers.”

Endorsement:
“When [people] meet him they think he’s an old grump, but just give it right back to him. He’s a fun guy and he’s got a big heart,” says his friend and coworker Dave Hoshaw. “Jimmy’s a one-of-a-kind, that’s the best way to put it... He’d give you his last dollar.”

 

 

PHM 800x800 FPOVoncelle Mull
Bio:
When a high-powered corporate career left her unfulfilled, Voncelle Mull, 38, decided to pursue her passion for skincare and health. She’s now an in-demand spa consultant, marketing pro and healthcare advocate who organizes skin cancer screenings and awareness events. “I absolutely love serving people,” Mull says. She’s a pastor’s daughter from Milwaukee and lets her Christian faith guide her.

Looking for:
“I’m looking for someone kind, a man I can respect, someone who is affectionate. I’m big on, I call it ‘mush.’ I love mush... Someone who listens and, if he’s planning the date, he put that thought into it, like ‘She said she likes this,’ or ‘She enjoys that,’ or ‘She wanted to try something new,’ or ‘She’s never been here before’ – that guy.”  

Deal-breakers:
“He would have to be a follower of Christ, that would be No. 1. I won’t even entertain it otherwise.”

Endorsement:
“I call her a G.E.M., which stands for Genuine, Elegant and Motivated,” says Mull’s friend Dr. Telpirore Tucker. “She’s a very thoughtful person. She’s a God-fearing woman, which is rare nowadays... She’s a beautiful woman, gorgeous skin... As much as she gives to other people, it would be nice to see her receive some of that.”

 

 

PHM 800x800 FPOTJ Benson
Bio:
Basketball is life for Grand Canyon University men’s assistant basketball coach TJ Benson, who played professional ball in Brazil before crossing to the other side of the bench. At 29, he is ready for a commitment – he just needs to pencil it in. “The biggest obstacle for me has been finding time to date,” he says, between his work schedule, time with his friends and family, and hobbies like reading, hiking and traveling.

Looking for:
“[My] ideal girl needs to be independent, athletic/active, and has to have a sense of humor and be witty,” Benson says. With his work schedule, “they have to be flexible. With my job I travel a lot. A lot of my time goes into working with players and that person’s going to have to be patient, understanding and flexible.”

Deal-breakers:
“Clinginess, poor sense of humor or can’t make me laugh.”

Endorsement:
“He’s a real loyal individual and just a great person to be around. He truly is like a brother to me,” says Joe Daiutolo, Benson’s best friend since second grade. Benson was best man at Daiutolo’s wedding. “He really listens and tries to help out with situations. He’s extremely loyal and extremely committed.”